Duties of Children towards Deceased Parents
by AlaHadrat Imam Ahmad Rida Khan al-Baraylawi Alaihir raHmah
A question was asked to the Great Mujaddid AlaHadrat Ash-Shah Imam Ahmad Rida Khan al-Qadiri (Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu) regarding the Duties of Children towards deceased Parents, over which he stated the following points:
1. The first and foremost duty of the children after the death of the parent is
that he should immediately arrange and take part in Ghusl, Salat al-Janaza
(Funeral Prayer) and Burial which should be done in accordance with the Sunnah
of the Holy Prophet SallAllaho Alaihi wa Sallam, and hope for them to receive
the Mercy of Almighty Allah.
2. He should always make Dua and Istighfar for them at all times and never be
unconscious about it.
3. He should give out Sadaqah and Khayrat (Charity) and always send the rewards
of good deeds (Aa'mal-e-Sawleh) to them in accordance to his personal capacity.
When performing Salah and keeping Fast (Roza), do likewise for them. Actually,
for any good deed performed, the Sawab should be forwarded to them and all
deceased Muslims and this will not affect the benefits one will receive, in any
way. On the contrary, the Sawab of such acts will be beneficial to himself, his
parents and all the deceased of the Ummah.
4. If the parents left behind any kind of debts or credits it should be paid in
full immediately from one's personal wealth, which should be regarded as
blessings of this Duniya and Aakhirah. If you cannot afford to pay, assistance
should be taken from the family, close friends or charitable Muslims.
5. If he has not
performed Hajj, firstly, try to perform his Hajj-e-Badal for him personally, or
send someone as a representative to do so. If he has any previous Zakah to be
paid, do so immediately. If he has any Qada of Salat or Roza (Fasting) perform
the Kaffarah for him. The children should, in all aspects, try their best to
execute the duties of their parents which were left undone.
6. Whatever desires and wishes were made by the parent should be carried out
even though it may displease you and the Shariah does not compel you to. For
example, if he has made a Wasiyat (Wish) to give half of his wealth or
belongings to a dear friend, non-inheritor or total outsider, even though in
accordance to the Law of the Shariah, one-third of the wealth or belongings
cannot be given to anyone without the consent of the heirs, it is best for the
heirs to execute the Wasiyat and priority to the wishes and happiness of the
deceased.
7. If he has taken an oath, carry it out after his death.If the parents had
sworn an oath that their child must not do a certain thing or not meet with a
certain person or must not go to a certain place, it must not be discarded after
the death, saying :"Well, they are not alive so I can do certain things." Wrong!
One should abide by it as he did while they were alive, as long as it does not
conflict with the Shariah.
8. Visit their graves every Friday and recite Surah Yaseen at the graveside
loudly and pass the Thawab of recitation to them. While travelling, never pass
their graves without greeting and performing Fatiha.
9. As long as you live, be kind to their relatives.
10. Maintain friendship and respect for all their relatives.
11. Never, at any time, insult anyone's parents, so that they may not insult
yours.
12. The most difficult duty is never to commit any sin and inflict harm to them
in their graves. All deeds of the children are taken to their parents in the
grave. On seeing the good deeds they are very pleased and their faces glitter
with happiness. On the contrary, if they see the bad deeds or sins, they become
very sad.
O! Merciful and Most Forgiving Allah! The Almighty and All Powerful! On behalf of your most Beloved Prophet, Mercy of the Universe (SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam), protect us from sins and grant us the guidance and courage to always do good. Fill the graves of our elders and deceased with Light and happiness. O Allah! You are the All Powerful, we are the weak. You are the Wealthy and we are the poor. Protect us... Aameen!!